Time Flies

Dear Jordan,


It seems like only yesterday, you were 5 and crawling under the table at Texas Roadhouse to sit next to me. Now you are a senior in high school. You are always on my mind and you have been on my mind even more the last few weeks. What should be such an exciting time for you has become a little f----d up. It sucks.

I am not going to pretend to know this exact situation is like. I have no idea, but I can empathize with you. I know it is a hard situation. I will say this….I have been disappointed and hurt by family. In my experience, the people we love often do thinks that scare us, embarrass us, anger us, and sadden us. It may make us feel guilty. It may make us look at ourselves to see what we did wrong (nothing usually as the decision was theirs, not ours). And our love for them does not take away our right to be angry with them. We can be upset and we can set boundaries. You are only responsible for your own actions. You are not responsible for the actions of others. You do have to work to forgive. If you don’t, it will eat you up inside.

These situations should not make the decisions we make for ourselves any different. Over the next year, you are going to making lots of decisions – not the least of which is what you want the next chapter in your life to be. Seek the advice of those you love, listen to all viewpoints, but ultimately the decision of your future has to be made by you. Ultimately, you are the one who has to live your life. Make it a good one. And remember, your dad and I will always have a room in our home for you.

As you start your senior year, my only advice is stop and breath. It seems like one minute I was a high school senior, then the next breath a college freshman, and then in the next breath I was working in the “real world”.

Love to the son of my heart,

Megan